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Love and Other Maladies 2

Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.

W. B. Yeats
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Love and Trust

Can there be love without trust? When I examine love between couples, it seems to me trust is the glue that binds the weak force of love together. I consider trust one of the most important aspects of lasting love. From trust we manifest acceptance, reliability, and a sense of safety. You have my back.

We need words to build our trust but words without deeds to back them up are eventually hollow and breed suspicion. We must do what we say we will do. As our trust develops we experience empathy, compassion, and to some extent, altruism. These are foundational to real love.

But, beware. Trust when viewed from a self serving perspective becomes a prison warden that enslaves the other and eventually kills the spark of life and one finds themselves abandoned by the one most trusted and this act of betrayal leaves us scarred for life. When we trust someone and have expectations that they will meet our criteria to earn our trust we are asking them to become like us, abandoning themselves to our demands.

Trust must be earned. Yet to truly trust someone, we must first accept them as they are and allow them to pursue their dreams and the shared dreams built together over time. If we can’t do this, perhaps the person is not the right one to help bring us contentment, purpose, and life meaning. Real trust takes time and it is time well spent.

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45 responses to “Love and Other Maladies 2”

  1. Seoul Sister Avatar
    Seoul Sister

    Love without trust is tragic. Best to not break trust in the first place. I think the most challenging love is within families (specifically siblings), lots of potential for misunderstandings.

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    1. Hyperion Avatar
      Hyperion

      This is true, Judy. Excellent comment, if you have one’s trust, it should be treated with the utmost respect. Certainly families experience a lot of turmoil as members assert themselves and others see things differently. Trust can be very fragile in families if it exists at all. This is another place where feelings of betrayal can last a long time.

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      1. Seoul Sister Avatar
        Seoul Sister

        Friends and lovers are chosen by us but families are chosen by God :). I suppose to to stretch our ability for compassion and mental growth, very challenging kind of love! Betrayals and rivalries do sometimes last a lifetime even when they seemed to have resolved, old hurts linger.

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        1. Hyperion Avatar
          Hyperion

          It seems this is the default human condition. If we focus on living in the light of life, we can manage these challenges better, but it doesn’t come with an easy button.

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          1. Seoul Sister Avatar
            Seoul Sister

            Growth isnt easy, but it’s worth the heartache 💖

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            1. Hyperion Avatar
              Hyperion

              Agreed! I always thought the best life was to step away from balance and tip the scales with a little risk for the greater experience.

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  2. taurusingemini Avatar
    taurusingemini

    Trust is something that’s, so easily lost, and when our trusts that’s given to someone else gets broken, we started to, distrust our own selves, which makes it impossible for us, to trust, anybody else again, beacuse we were hurt, and we started, distrusting our own, judgments, and, before we can trust anybody else outside of us, we must, regain, reestablished the trust we’d lost, from trusting someone else with our whole heart and soul, previously.

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    1. Hyperion Avatar
      Hyperion

      Excellent comment. Thank you. This is probably the most important aspect of trust. It must start from within before it can be extended to others.

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  3. House of Heart Avatar
    House of Heart

    A lovely narrative on the subject of trust. No one is perfect and trust can be put in question or shattered, still I feel if love survives there should be second opportunities to rebuild trust. That is a tall order and hard work but trust can be rebuilt over time if one sincerely feels a relationship is so important in their lives a second chance is worthwhile. Unfortunately, broken trust , even if forgiven, is never forgotten.

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    1. Hyperion Avatar
      Hyperion

      You are so right, Rene. This is why, for me, trust is one of the foundational aspects of sustaining a positive connection to family, friends, associates, and especially our life partner. Because we are human, we will fail this test unless we can reach and hold a higher and more noble self, or our memory is short.

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  4. Dracul Van Helsing Avatar
    Dracul Van Helsing

    You are becoming a beacon of wisdom, Daniel.

    Love cannot exist without trust.

    Which probably explains why most politicians find themselves unloved.

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    1. Hyperion Avatar
      Hyperion

      Thank you Chris. I’m trying to spread a little old fashion 🕉. I do think a lot of the chaos we see happening is because trust has been destroyed. The whole planet has suddenly reverted back to the Terrible Twos of toddler life. Hmmmm. I see a conspiracy theory emerging in the adult diaper industry.

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      1. Dracul Van Helsing Avatar
        Dracul Van Helsing

        I think that was just Joe Biden relieving his intestines.

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        1. Hyperion Avatar
          Hyperion

          He has competition now since The GOO was arrested. Mars Lager will have to be repainted after that GOO Poo-nami. 🌊😱

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          1. Dracul Van Helsing Avatar
            Dracul Van Helsing

            Yes and son Hunter just gets a slap on the wrist.

            It’s better to be a son of the Pooper-In-Chief 💩 🚽 than a political opponent.

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            1. Hyperion Avatar
              Hyperion

              There is a long and sordid story attached. American Politics has never been anything but a cock fight billed as Cirque de Soleil. No refund on the tickets.

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              1. Dracul Van Helsing Avatar
                Dracul Van Helsing

                Hopefully you didn’t buy tickets 🎟️ to that show, Daniel.

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                1. Hyperion Avatar
                  Hyperion

                  I did not buy any tickets and in fact removed all televisions from my house just in case they tried to sneak something in on me with the evening news. I’ve turned on and dropped out as the 70’s hippies used to say. I’m feeding the Void in my head with books from the classics.

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                  1. Dracul Van Helsing Avatar
                    Dracul Van Helsing

                    An excellent idea, Daniel.

                    Considering the amount of definite would be female victims of Pan Goatee they’re now showing on TV commercials this year, abstaining from TV will definitely save your sanity as well as your eyesight.

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                    1. Hyperion Avatar
                      Hyperion

                      It’s all just too sad to take anymore. I love reading the classics instead. No foul gratuitous language and every romance is done in good taste. Even the evil antagonists are never droll idiots.

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                    2. Dracul Van Helsing Avatar
                      Dracul Van Helsing

                      Actually I long to do what you’re doing, Daniel.

                      It would be nice to live in a small town in a quaint rural area and just read the Classics and write thought provoking prose and poetry.

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                    3. Hyperion Avatar
                      Hyperion

                      I agree. You should do it. Me too.

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                    4. Dracul Van Helsing Avatar
                      Dracul Van Helsing

                      Yes, I’ve been praying that someone will buy the movie rights to my novel The Vampiress With Amnesia for a large sum.

                      That will allow me to buy a comfortable house in a rural area near a small town.

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                    5. Hyperion Avatar
                      Hyperion

                      According to Gen Z all you need to do is think about it and it will manifest. Hope they are right.

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                    6. Dracul Van Helsing Avatar
                      Dracul Van Helsing

                      Yes, New Age Power of Thought as opposed to prayer to an external being.

                      Judy (SeoulSister) will gladly tell you what she thinks of that.

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                    7. Hyperion Avatar
                      Hyperion

                      Yes, I’m sure Judy doesn’t mince words with a youngster on a skate board trying to manifest an anti gravity jump into the Void by thinking on it.

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                    8. Dracul Van Helsing Avatar
                      Dracul Van Helsing

                      No, she doesn’t.

                      And continues not to mince words as he’s wheeled into the ambulance 🚑 afterwards. 😂

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                    9. Hyperion Avatar
                      Hyperion

                      I’m a firm believer that mortal pain is the best teacher for the lower forms of human consciousness. And death by stupidity is a necessary means of keeping the gene pool clean. We should not interfere with this natural process.

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                    10. Dracul Van Helsing Avatar
                      Dracul Van Helsing

                      Indeed, we shouldn’t. 😂

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                  2. George F. Avatar
                    George F.

                    You had to summon me with the “Void in your head” comment, didn’t you?

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                    1. Hyperion Avatar
                      Hyperion

                      Waaa haaa haaaa! Wait, was there an echo? Yes, the Void in my head is vast and due to the vacuum, energy can move from one end of the Void to the other in another head at the speed of thought. Your response is all the proof I need that the Void is working.

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                    2. George F. Avatar
                      George F.

                      I’ve been distracted lately playing with ChatGPT prompts, trying to determine if AI is a better writer. O well. Who cares. Imma gonna dip my head back into the void and post again. The unintentional consequences of blogging are all the wonderful side conversations that ensue.

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                    3. Hyperion Avatar
                      Hyperion

                      I agree. The blog post is the fertilizer of expanded thoughts presented in often humorous ways. I have enjoyed testing ChatGPT and find it quite shy in answering questions. It seems to be programmed with a politically correct algorithm.

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                    4. George F. Avatar
                      George F.

                      How intelligent can it be with humans programming it? Garbage in, Garbage out. I’m sure it can “scrape the internet” faster than I…but a politically correct non offensive AI? Sheesh. 1984 on steroids. Orwellian speak x 10.

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                    5. Hyperion Avatar
                      Hyperion

                      Yep, you got it. And it’s scraping all of the bs on the internet and finding the median solution. So, what ChatGPT does is concentrate the propaganda into a single source. So, this makes the AI an excellent bullsh*ter. Still, BS for writers of fiction isn’t a bad thing when suspending reality is the intent.

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                    6. Dracul Van Helsing Avatar
                      Dracul Van Helsing

                      Mental telepathy at work.

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                    7. Dracul Van Helsing Avatar
                      Dracul Van Helsing

                      Speaking of Void, I did make reference to the question of God vs. The Void in the blog post I wrote tonight entitled Phoebe and The Kraken of Doom (I’m just going to edit it now having written it earlier).

                      So there’s synchronicity at work again there.

                      Funny, SeoulSister and I just had a dialogue about synchronicity in the comments section of one of my blog posts from last weekend.

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  5. George F. Avatar
    George F.

    Ah, the wife and I trust each other as much as The Pink Panther trusts Cato. We keep each other on our toes.

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    1. Hyperion Avatar
      Hyperion

      LOL! Mutually assured dementia is an alliance that can’t be broken by petty differences. Rock on, bro!

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    2. Dracul Van Helsing Avatar
      Dracul Van Helsing

      OMG ! That is hilarious 😂.

      You and your wife trust each other as much as the Pink Panther trusts Cato.

      Little did I realize when watching them as a kid and teenager that the Peter Sellers Pink Panther movies would forever remain in my mind as cinematic masterpieces.

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      1. Hyperion Avatar
        Hyperion

        The Pink Panther and Green Lantern filled my days and nights with lots of fun mimicry.

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      2. George F. Avatar
        George F.

        We grew up in an age when funny was not confused with offensive. Little did I know how much fun I was having.

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        1. Hyperion Avatar
          Hyperion

          This is a quotable quote for the day. Life was fun and most people had dignity and grace in their public decorum. Politics was practiced in the home, not on the streets or in schools and every institution of human civilization where violence is perpetrated on anyone with morals, ethics, values, and integrity.

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          1. George F. Avatar
            George F.

            Thanks. Being quotable is my goal and fires me up to blog anew!

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            1. Hyperion Avatar
              Hyperion

              Woooooo hoooooo! Not leaving my screen in anticipation.

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